Systemic Structural Constellations at IGH Sonnenhof
Those interested in family constellations often have issues which refuse to be solved by ordinary means: lifelong conflict with parents, and children, inexplicable feelings about life, recurring partnership problems.
That such problems most often stem from the family background is something we do know today, but how to approach the issue and, more importantly, how to crack it still often defeats us. Family constellations offer a promising solution for this type of case. Cornelia Labandowsky has developed her very own version of systemic constellation through her work with many clients.
Perhaps this sounds familiar: a certain aspect of your life is a constant irritant or keeps going wrong, and we notice that we act the same way again and again even though we know – at least theoretically – that this is to our disadvantage.
Certain behaviour patterns repeat over and over, such as selecting the wring partner or the wrong friends. Getting into the same spiral of conflict with different people and always following the same behaviour pattern or even the same symptoms. Wanting to change your life but not succeeding, because I am forever falling back into my old behaviours.
Systemic constellation explains this by saying that our entire life and our actions are based on fixed systems which we inherited and carry with us since birth.
In recent years, systemic constellation has been developed by Prof. Matthias Varga von Kibéd and Insa Sparrer, to represent the outer image of the system and to change to achieve a positive shift for the client. Change is enabled by uncovering the existing entanglement in the system, to resolve it in a second step. The work is carried out in a way similar to Hellinger‘s family constellation, using external representatives chosen by the client to stand for parts of the system in a physical space.
Changing the positions of these representatives and asking specific questions create a completely new picture of the system. This has been scientifically proven to work on the client’s behaviour. He/she disentangles themselves from old behaviour patterns – making real change possible. (see also: „Systemische Strukturaufstellung“ – Insa Sparrer, Carl-Auer-Verlag or “Miracle, Solution and System: Solution-focused Systemic Structural Constellations for Therapy and Organisational Change”, Insa Sparrer and Matthias Varga von Kibéd, Solutions Books).
People who live aware lives, who do not want to submit to their fate or, rather, their system, can use systemic constellation to achieve astonishing, at times even radical change. I have been working with clients displaying a wide range of physical and psychological issues in my practice for the last 15 years, and I am convinced by what I see – the undoubtedly successful changes wrought by systemic constellation, because it addresses a part of ourselves that we cannot normally access: our subconscious. Setting up a constellation is a very important building block in this therapy, and often the decisive one.
Women who have been in unhappy relationships for years open up to meet the ‘right‘ partner, people who thought the meaning of their lives completely lost completely change their lives, sometimes finding entirely new careers in the process. In every case, a positive change in the life of the client.